alittlecheap:

A few folks pointed out I didn’t address the MM or FF aspect of threesomes. A few tips were added.  Of course almost all of these reflect communication of each persons desire so most of this is focused on the practicalities of the threesome.

DONTS

1) F: Don’t just lay there like a dead fish. Show enthusiasm and let the guys know you’re enjoying it.

2) F: don’t just communicate with your boyfriend/guy/whatever. It makes the other dude feel like a human dildo.  If you can take a cock in your mouth from a friend/stranger, you can at least talk to him directly

3) M: Don’t hog the hole. In 3 on 1’s there’s always one guy who tries to own a hole. Usually the pussy.  Everybody wants some of the pussy. Don’t be a hog, share.

4) M: Don’t freak out if your cock touches another dude part. Its a threesome (or more). shit will touch. deal with it.

5) M: Don’t presume just because she’s willing to be a slut, she wants it in the ass. That should be established up front.

6) M: Don’t presume she wants you to gag her. Usually, chicks can’t suck cock well while being fucked. the mechanics are all wrong. She’ll probably just hold it, and kinda suckle it in her mouth most of the time.

7) F: Know up front where the cum goes. Guys will freeze up not knowing if they blow it in you, on you, or wherever. 

8) M: Don’t aggressively finger her, or try to hit her G Spot. Yes we know she’s a slut and you won’t see her again most likely - but don’t use her as an experimental doll.  Treat her like someone you might sleep with again.

9) M: Don’t hold back your orgasm. Cum when you’re ready, don’t wait for the boyfriend/husband/whatever to cum first. He probably wants to see it himself

10) MM: if you want to do any guy on guy - be clear upfront. It’s disconcerting to feel a mouth on your cock then realize its not hers. Had that happen and would have been cool with it had he not tried to sneak it.Same is true for FF. Set the bi rules upfront

11) MM/FF: presuming you communicated upfront, don’t expect them to know what to do. encourage and teach each other - Unless she or He has had a lot of bi experience, they won’t be experts at same gender sex. Verbally praise them and help where you can ( holding hair, setting the positions etc)

12) MM : don’t expect that the other guy is equally comfortable with bi play ( less critical for women - they seem to inherently sense this ). I had one guy forcefully shove my legs up and dive into my asshole with his tongue. I was soooo not comfortable being in such a position or having a wet squishy butthole. So communicate up front about your level of readiness and experience 

13) MF: don’t presume your partner is going to be 100% into watching you have sex with someone else (presuming there is a couple in the mix - if it’s pure sex amongst f-buddies this can be ignored). I’ve found that we all learn to have sex one way, more or less . Your partner will be used to seeing you do them in your preferred manner - and will feel a degree of ownership/familiarity with it. They may feel bad when your style doesn’t change when being with e new person.  I suggest either holding some things in reserve (eg kissing hand holding favorite words) OR agree beforehand that you only know one way to do it- but that doesn’t mean it has equal feeling with the new person. 

14) MM : sucking cock. Don’t scrape with teeth! You’d think guys would know this - but it takes practice. Treat it like a vagina. Same is true for balls.Dudes are rougher than girls in general. And they squeeze and pull on balls way more harshly than they realize. 

15) FF: don’t compare yourself to her. Women do this often in normal life but it creates anxiety in a three way. If one feels “better” than the other it will show through. This is about pleasure and experience - leave the competition at the door. 

DO’S

1) MM : sucking cock or being sucked Is exciting so some of the normal rules don’t apply. Put your hand on the  guys head (don’t force but hint that you could) this will make him feel like the cocksucking chicks he watched in porn and really get him going. Be verbal and gave the porn experience. 

2) FF:if you’re doing this for your guy - consider doing a cum swap. Yeah it’s kinda gross when you think about it but there’s almost nothing that will make him feel like a golden god than seeing that. 

3) MM: tell the other guy how hot he is doing her. Guys get really focused and quiet during sex - this is the time to open up. Tell him how sexy it is to see him fill her up  tell him his cock looks huge in her hands. Tell him how sexy his girl is, and shes amazing and how great he has it

4) MFM: do her from both ends treat it like it’s for her pleasure too. It’s hot to have a guy fucking you while you suck another one. It’s not hot to have them go into frat mode and start wooing and hand slapping. Unless she wants to play the slut and asks to be humiliated. 

5) MFM: do her spit roast but not for too long. Let her get on her back and take it sensually. 

6) FFM : include the guy as much as possible. It’s hot to watch two girls but there’s a fine line between hot and being a space heater. If he’s sitting there jerking for more an a minute you need to get him back in the action. 

7) MM: Rub your cocks together for her to watch. Kiss if it’s in your rules. try to show interest beyond the cock. Most MM play in threesomes are heavily influenced by porn and centralized around the cock. People aren’t porn movies - treat each other as a whole sexual persons.

8) F: If you’re getting overwhelmed and cant keep up with the cocks, cup their balls. The warm hand is always welcome, it takes no coordination, and lets the guys jerk themselves while still being connected to the action.

9) M: Bring your own condoms

10) M: Use lube - but not TOO much.

11) M: Talk - let her know what is turning you on

12) M: Encourage other guys to change positions and enjoy it

13) M: Talk dirty but not insulting to her - unless that’s what she wants

14) F: Find a comfortable position - don’t just take a porn angle and feel miserable. Most chicks seem to take it on their back easiest

15) F: Make some noise - you’re not just a cum catcher - you’re a fantasy. Make it sounds like it.

16) M: Be honest with yourself about getting and staying hard in front of other dudes. If you can’t, take a step back and get yourself ready on your own

17) M:Be cool with other dudes cocks balls and bodies. If he’s doing something hot to her, say so.

As someone who’s been aching for a threesome for a while, these rules are immensely helpful…and arousing.

(via wideworldofsex)